The following is an anonymous account shared by a close friend who chose to put her deeply personal reflections into words. It is an honest observation of her ongoing struggle with overthinking, the constant noise within her mind, and the emotional battles that often come with it.
Through her reflections, she explores how an unsettled mind can quietly shape emotions, reactions, relationships and even one’s sense of self.
I have been going through conflicts with someone very close to me and I found myself reflecting on one of our arguments. It had been deeply frustrating. My mind simply refused to let go, holding onto every word, every emotion, almost as if winning the argument mattered more than anything else.
I was so consumed by the need to prove a point that I didn’t even notice how emotionally drained I had become. By the end of it, I wasn’t at peace, I was only exhausted.
Later, after the argument had passed, I found myself struggling to quiet my thoughts, trying desperately to calm my mind, even if only for a few moments. It was during that difficult process that I realized something important: the mind, when left unchecked, can slowly turn us into someone we don’t even recognize or want to be.
For me, it often feels like, I am fighting a battle within myself every single day.
As though I step onto a battlefield inside my own mind, only to lose over and over again. I walk away feeling defeated, carrying the weight of emotions I cannot fully understand or control. And somewhere in that struggle, I end up hurting the people I care about the most, while also hurting myself.
Lately, I find myself asking the same question again and again: Am I losing myself?
Our minds carry countless expectations, emotions and unspoken hopes. And when those expectations are left unmet, or emotions remain unresolved, they begin to create an endless ocean of questions within us.
Slowly, those questions transform into confusion, confusion turns into frustration, frustration into anger, and eventually, all that remains is emotional exhaustion. Sometimes, it feels like much of our stress and sadness are born from this very cycle.
Sometimes, I find myself wondering, where feelings like stress, anxiety, and depression truly come from.
Why do so many people seek help to cope with the weights of their own thoughts? Is there a better way to understand and deal with what goes on inside our minds?
The more I reflect on it, the more I realize just how powerful the mind really is. It has the ability to transform the happiest person into someone burdened with sadness, or the calmest soul into someone consumed by anger.
Perhaps this happens when we unknowingly allow our thoughts to take control of us, instead of learning how to guide and understand them.
I have also come to feel that people rarely make poor decisions when they are in a healthy and peaceful state of mind. More often, mistakes happen when emotions become overwhelming, when thoughts grow too loud, and when the mind begins to lead us instead of us leading it.
Lately, I feel like I have been a prisoner of my own mind. Past thoughts and situations have affected me so deeply that I have even lost the minimum patience required to calm my own emotions in my own head. The shift from a chaotic kind of love to a quiet one hasn’t been easy. It is still a struggle. I am still learning how to cope with it.
The mind is so powerful that, it makes us do things we never thought we would do, and only later we realize it. We sometimes forget who we really are; like when a person is drunk, they are not fully aware in the moment, and only after becoming sober, they realize what has happened.
Also, I have noticed another side in myself. When I am simply in the right state of mind, not overthinking, or calm, I feel light and relaxed from within. But when I am angry, upset, emotional, or overthinking, everything feels so heavy and exhausting.
My mind feels like a dark shadow. It is me, but in greyscale. It slowly takes over the peaceful, colourful, happy me. It feels like there are two different people on the battlefield, facing each other every single day.
One of them wants to surrender in the right way, to stay calm, to let go. But the other one is louder. It pulls me back and says, “No, this is who you are.” And that version of me feels more angry, more restless… almost violent. And in the end, I come out as the loser.
I cry myself to sleep some nights, because this journey feels so lonely. Nights feel the heaviest, when there is no one around to distract me from my own thoughts. Sometimes, I push away the most beautiful things in my life, even the most beautiful person by my side. And later, I regret it.
Something happened today. I was sitting in a room, without electricity. No AC, no fan. Just a window, with wind blowing outside. At first, I was feeling very hot and uncomfortable. But then, I slowly sat quietly and continued doing my work. And after some time, I started to feel the wind. Nothing outside had changed.
The wind was always there. This time it hit me. What just happened! Maybe I had tried keeping my mind bit calm and the magic happened. I thought to myself, if I can control my mind a little in this one moment, what if I practice it every day?
Maybe I can become a little more peaceful. Maybe even a little happier. What if life is actually simple, slow, and calm, but it is our mind that makes it complicated?
What if, instead of reacting, we just sit quietly and give our disturbed mind some space? Maybe there is a way through everything. Maybe there is always a solution. We just don’t see it when our mind is restless.
And maybe the real victory in life is learning how to guide our own mind. It isn’t easy. It takes patience, discipline, and time. But it isn’t impossible.
